Have you ever found yourself falling for someone for all of the right reasons... for all of the things on the inside like... intelligence, sense of humor, good conversation, a great personality,etc.; and being mature enough to accept the fact that you aren't 100% physically attracted to them? But for once, you took the time to get to know them and appreciate the person they were?
Did you ever have to explain yourself to your friends "I know, I know... but he/she has a great personality and we have so much fun together"?
Did you ever think ".. if one of my ex's saw me with this guy would he think I downgraded? ... But I don't care because he's a much better person on the inside."
All of this ..... only to have that great personality having, sub-sexy asshole stop returning your calls one day!
It's the absolute worse!
Getting played by a fine ass guy that looks like he stepped off the set of the movie 300, I can swallow. You're still a winner. At the very least, you save face and you still get the credit for having pulled such a fine ass dude in the first place. Your friends say "Girl.. yes he is a jerk... but he's fine as hell!!! ... I understand."
On the other-hand getting sidelined by somebody who you felt was a only 5.75 on a scale of 10 out the gate... is a lose/lose situation. Not only does your stock go down for dating below your standard, now you have NO excuse for having let this cretin get the best of you. You can't say "oh...I was blinded by the pectoral muscles" this time.
A mature approach to dating can be hazardous. I say resist the urge to evolve!
You may yearn for that evening of enlightened conversation over wine and tapas with the well-read guy that's just 4 inches too short or the one with the crocked teeth that's active in his community, but if the relationship ends (don't fool yourself .... it probably will) their dating stock goes through the roof and yours tanks because your took a risk. Now all you have is hurt feelings and a bruised ego. Instead go out with the airhead that's so hot that when you look at him makes your nose bleed. You may be shallow but when it's over atleast your pride is still in tact and it's always better to say "Dayum that dude was slow.. but good geesus he was gorgeous." Instead of "I know, I know, I realize he had a gut and was balding but he was nice you guys."
